Remember the halcyon days when you first came across your wife or husband? Those wonderful romantic sexy days when you just enjoyed being in each other’s company and could chat for hours. You would do those special things for each other just to see the look of pleasure on his/her face. They were the days when your relationship was special and dynamic and you felt fully alive because of it.
Now the “Limerance” stage is long gone, as it always does………. but have you evolved into an even better version of a deeper fuller love? …..Or have you been taking your loved one for granted and busying yourself with other “more pressing” things, like jobs and children and work around the home, and finances and friends?
One of the most prevalent issues I find in my private practice as a Psychologist specializing in Relationships is a “natural neglect” in secure relationships.
Even though everything in your shared life is based on a foundation of your love for each other, and your shared life together, it’s all too easy to take for granted that your relationship will always be stable, without realizing that it, too, needs attention and nurturing.
Perhaps you could converse with your partner and ask him/her how happy he or she is in your relationship, on a rough scale of 1 to 10. Then follow it with the more important question of “What would have to happen to make it a 10 for you?”
Keeping your relationship alive and healthy needs ongoing attention, but not only does it make for a more enjoyable life, but is one of the most enduring aspects of a life well lived.
In the final years of one’s life, thoughts more often than not turn to how treated others, rather than how much money will I die with.
If you’ve let your relationship slip away from you, a relationship Psychologist can show you, in a few sessions, how to bring back the passion, chemistry and love again.
The Hart Centre is a group of 51 Psychologists Australia wide who specialize in relationship counselling and marriage counselling. We have 15 Psychologists located throughout Sydney, so there is sure to be one near you. Phone the Hart Centre on 1300 830 552 for more details.